Monthly Archives: March 2010

Common Mistakes: Not Trusting in the Generosity of the Universe

March 25, 2010
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Flower For Those (Photo via).

“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.”
–Henri Matisse

How many times in the past have I compromised my prices out of fear that if I say no I won’t get the job? And how much fear continues to exist in these difficult economic times?

I think the beauty of being in business for the past 30 years and surviving through more than one recession is that I’ve learned there are going to be great years and not so great years. To want anything else is not very realistic. Yet, we’re constantly fearful of the unknown. For me, it was always the fear of not being good enough–until I started accepting the generosity of God and the universe.

There is more than enough out there for all of us. Whenever I go to a place of want, I constantly try to go to a place of being thankful instead. This is not an easy practice. I also notice in myself how difficult it is just to be grateful whenever I’ve accomplished something I wanted desperately, instead of going to a place of wanting MORE, MORE, MORE.

I don’t want to sound as if I’m preaching. It’s my daily practice to constantly meditate and remind myself that success is available to all of us, no exception. The only work we have is to keep practicing our art and trusting the universe.

Universe Photo

So, here are my suggestions for those times when you’re feeling a little unsure:

  • Stop. Breathe. Let yourself worry for five seconds. After your five seconds are over, start thinking about how you can make the situation better and then actually start making it better.
  • Talk to someone who has been in a similar situation. Get his/her advice and knowledge on how to fix the problem. The answers are out there.
  • Attempt fixing your problem one step at a time. It can be overwhelming trying to rule the world or plan an event in just one day. Take it piece by piece and before you know it, the entire puzzle will be solved.

Please share with me, do you believe in the generosity of the universe? Yes or no?

(Photos: Top via and bottom via)

What’s In or Out? Flower trends RESULTS

March 24, 2010

Thank you for your amazing response to last week’s post about flower trends.Yes, I do agree with most of you: there is no such thing as a “bad” flower. That’s what makes our job so interesting. We are working with something naturally beautiful, so there is very little we can do to create an ugly arrangement.

However, based on my study of my client requests over the years, here is my verdict on which flowers are in or out based on geographical region:

America (of course, I am based in New York)

  • Roses: In (especially the giant sizes and new varieties)
  • Amaryllis: In
  • Tulips : In (especially Parrot tulips)
  • Dahlias: OUT

Middle East

  • Roses: OUT (My clients claim they have been overused)
  • Amaryllis: In
  • Tulips: In
  • Dahlias: OUT

Asia

  • Roses: In
  • Amaryllis: In
  • Tulips: In
  • Dahlias: In

Europe

  • Roses: Almost on their way out (I get conflicting request from clients.)
  • Amaryllis: In
  • Tulips: In (especially French tulips)
  • Dahlias: In

So there you have it. Please don’t kill the messenger.

Now for this week, growing up in Panama, birds of paradise and other tropical flowers were considered weeds growing in my back yard. So, I was very surprised when tropical flowers became the thing to do back in the ’80s. Even today there is a large demand for these flowers all over the world.

Tell me… which of these tropical flowers do you consider IN or OUT?

Strelitzia Reginae a.k.a. Bird of paradise

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Anthurium

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Leucospermum a.k.a Pincushion

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Heliconia a.k.a Lobster Claw
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And please tell me, how do you feel about tropical flowers?

Frequently Asked Questions: How do I use candles without getting wax everywhere?

March 23, 2010

The short answer: I don’t use real candles. For the long answer, keep reading…

The one thing almost 100% of my clients love is candlelight. A beautifully candlelit room can immediately evoke the feeling of romance. I think it reminds us of looking up into the magic and mystery of the skies. Also, the biggest advantage of using candles is that everyone looks GREAT.

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place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

However, I have had so many accidents with the casualties of wax that I used to panic every time a client told me they loved candles.

Here are a few of my casualties with different types of candles:

  • If votive candles are not placed properly, they could burn a leaf or flowers and start a small fire. (However, these are safest to have if placed strategically.)
  • If they are pillar candles, watch out for the tablecloths.
  • If they are tall taper candles (these are the worst) you could have wax all over the flowers, glasses, tablecloths, and, in one case, spilling all over my client’s tux.
  • If they are used outdoors, FORGET IT. Most likely they are going to blow out.

And forget about the promise of “dripless” candles, because once there is any kind of vent (air conditioner or any draft) these dripless candles become a blobby mess of wax.

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My solution for using candles is to use LED or battery operated candles. (Of course, this is only my opinion based off my experience with clients. If you want to use real candles, there’s no fool-proof solution to the wax problem. There may be tips and techniques people can share below, but mostly it’s a lot of hoping for the best.) It might not seem as romantic as seeing the live flickering flames, but the overall effect is very much the same.

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Here’s a battery operated votive. In the candle holder, you can hardly tell the difference.

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This kind of votive has three different lighting options: flickering, flashing and solid.

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This tall taper candle uses standard double A batteries. (I got these from Paradise Candles in Pennsylvania.)

On a few occasions, my clients didn’t even realize they weren’t real candles until I mentioned it to them. When using these types of candles, it’s also important to explain to your clients that large events are not the same controlled environment as their homes.

Now please tell me, how do YOU decorate with candles without making a mess? And if you could share some secrets on how to get rid of unwanted wax, that’s great too.

Candles: Are they worth the wax trouble?

March 22, 2010

Candles bring a certain ambience that just can’t be reproduced with other types of lighting. Here are a few of my favorite ways to decorate with candles:

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place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

Everyone loves candles but how do you avoid those messy wax accidents in your design? Find out in tomorrow’s post…

But first, I have a question for you. There are basically three kinds of candle shapes:

  • Votive (small tea lights in small glass containers)
  • Pillar candles (chunky, sometimes squat shaped candles of various sizes)
  • Tapers (tall, thin candles of varying heights)

Do you prefer votives, pillars, or tapers and why?

Bride Spotlight: Jessica

March 19, 2010

The poet William Wordsworth said,

Look for the stars, you’ll say that there are none;
Look up a second time
, and, one by one,
You mark them twinkling out with silvery light,
And wonder how they could elude the sight!

Today’s bride spotlight is all about finding true love the second time around. I adore repeat business, especially when it’s a combination of a mother and bride you’ve fallen in love with. So, it was with great surprise that I received a call from Jessica and her mom Tamara about doing a second wedding for Jessica.

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place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

Jessica and her dream man

Jessica and Tamara have such impeccable taste, and for this second wedding it was like playing out the great American love story. Jessica found her dream man, and it ended up being a happily emotional day. (She looked amazing, by the way).

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place settings, table setting,flowers,wedding centerpieces,bouquets,arrangements

Some people may feel superstitious about using the same vendors twice, but I was thrilled at the chance to work with this bride and mom all over again. And, I have to say, while the first wedding was fun, the second one was an ultimate blast to work on.

I always think that second weddings should be even more fabulous than the first. What do you think?