April 30, 2010
A recent escort arrangement I created for a wedding in the Pierre Hotel
I love working all over the world because it gives me a chance to tap all the wonderful local talent for each job. In this week’s Your Turn I’d love to hear from you about the best local florist in your area. Who do you think is the best? And why? (Don’t hesitate to nominate yourself. I would!)
April 29, 2010
How is it that we pray and hope for all the great jobs and opportunities to come to us, however we (being human) resent it when the great jobs and opportunities come to our peers? Yes folks, I am also guilty of the weakness of jealousy. I find myself indulging in jealousy mostly when I am fearful, fearful that I am not able to get what I want. It’s easy to become frustrated when someone else seems to be getting what is rightfully ours, even if we are too frightened to go for it.
I have always thought of jealousy as one of my biggest weaknesses. Just recently have I learned to see it for the “tough love” friend it can be. Whenever my friend Jealousy shows its face, the first question that comes to my mind is, “What am I afraid of at this moment?” and I am reminded of a quote I read by David Richo:
Fear follows us all our lives, that is a human condition
Fear sometimes catches up with us, that is an occasional predicament
Fear never has to stop us, that is the purpose of our work.
So, the next time we feel jealousy taking over our attention there is only one cure for it: good old fashioned love. Give yourself a break and deal with one of your fears. And, always remember there is more than enough for us all.
When you are jealous, how do you let go of it?
April 28, 2010
In last week’s In or Out the winner was “dressy.” Evening attire is still very much in, regardless of the country, though we have seen this mixed in with the “theme” idea of having your guests follow a theme or dress code.
For this week, let’s talk music. I have seen a big switch around the concept of the “wedding band.” I have had more than a few clients requesting just a DJ. Most mothers still want the full wedding band, while the more hip daughters are perfectly happy with a DJ playing all their favorite songs. A few times, the daughters have gotten their way by reminding their mothers that it’s much more cost effective to go with a DJ. In your opinion, what’s in or out? Live band or DJ?
A DJ booth I designed for a couple’s engagement party
April 27, 2010
Preston Bailey and His Partner Theo Bleckmann (image via)
That’s a very great question and the answer may be surprising. Up to today’s date, no I never have.
Same sex marriage is one of the most controversial issues not only in America, but, I believe, all over the world.
For me, I just don’t get it. Why is it that after doing thousands of wedding ceremonies around the world, I do not have the right to do my own?
Forget about my sexual preference and forget about my religious beliefs (by the way, I consider myself to be very spiritual), why is it that as I am in the process of planning my wedding with my partner, this means absolutely nothing legally? (Other than throwing one big, fun party with lots of new traditions?)
I find myself hesitating about making my wedding public because of the reactions of others when ultimately my only goal is to make public a commitment that after 61 years of looking I found someone I’d like to spend the rest of my life with. The same as any one else.
How do you feel about same sex marriages?
April 26, 2010
Last Friday, I had the honor of speaking to one of the most elegant, attractive groups of the Pittsburgh A list. To say the least, I was in ego heaven. Not only did these wonderful ladies come out in droves to donate for a great cause (the Ladies Hospital Aid Society), but they were also more than gracious.
I always need to quiet myself from the panic I feel before going in front of a large audience to speak. At one time, public speaking was one of my biggest fears. I felt that my accent was too pronounced or that I would make a fool of myself. I remember feeling my blood pulsing, palms sweating, and shortness of breath among other fears. (These fears have lessened but are still there.)
Yet, like with everything, preparation and practice is the only way to improve one’s speaking skills. For all of you with similar public speaking fears, this is what I have learned:
- Try to meet your audience before the talk. I had the pleasure of spending some time with these ladies before my talk and I found them interesting, fun, and, most importantly, stunning (I’m always a pushover for great fashion).
- BE YOURSELF. Another aspect I noticed was that even though they were all dressed up and looking great they all appeared to be very real, so it was easy for me to be myself and connect with them.
- Most importantly, always concentrate on your audience and how you are affecting them, not yourself. Just as in your personal relationships, it’s always key to be conscious of how you are affecting others. I felt these ladies were a very engaged audience (even for the shocking parts).
I loved my time in Pittsburgh. In fact, I left hoping that I’d have the opportunity to spend more time with some of these remarkable ladies. Of course, even though I give many speeches and I love connecting with my audience, I sometimes still experience a level of discomfort in public speaking. Along with many things in my life, it’s still a work in progress.
Please tell me: Do you enjoy public speaking? What are your tips?